The Breakup Song

It's been a week of breakups for people in my family.

It started with my brother and his wife. I knew they were having problems, and I know he wasn't happy, but I was shocked when I heard she had moved out.

It's not to say that I am not happy about this (yes, I am a bitch) but Kelli has not been nice since she landed Greg. She has outright lied about my mom to Greg. For instance, Mom went in and had her hair higlighted. Mom asked how much it was, Kelli replied, "don't worry about it." So mom left. In the meantime, Kelli called my brother and said that "your mom walked out without paying."

It is things like this that have put a bitter taste in our mouths. She started calling Mom around Easter telling her stuff about Greg, then last week, she called me whining, complaining, along with accusations of abuse. He's my brother and we both have the same temper (gotta love those Germans), but we both need pushed really hard to get mad. So, when she tells me this, I assume that she had pushed him to the edge. I later found out that she had hit him which caused him to grab her wrist - funny how there are two sides to each story and she conveniently left that out.

At this point I had enough and told her that maybe Greg was doing all this "stuff" (flirting with the neeighbor) to get back at her for all the rotten things she had done to him. I then gave her examples - it didn't go over to well, but at least she listened to what I said.

I continued by telling her that Greg chose her over his childhood friends - which I later found out, was something Greg had recently told her and she didn't believe.

The other breakup came as a surprise, but didn't.

Ben had been dating Alana for three years. They met at a baseball game when he was 19 and she was 15. Needless to say, I wasn't real keen on the age difference thing, only becuase he had just gotten out of some serious trouble and I was concerned that he would get in trouble becuase she was underage.

Anyway, they dated and on weekends her parents would let him spend the night at their house, in her bed, remember she is underage at this point.

Time goes by and they get engaged, but he is afraid to tell anyone. Gordon told him that if they were that much in love, then he should be happy about spreading the news.

This was a year and a half ago, and I thought all was well in lala land. They came to family events together, her parents have invited us there and vice versa. They are really great people and a lot of fun to be around.

I noticed, though, in the past few months they seemed to have been drifiting apart. They weren't clingy like before and often sat apart on the sofa, which is coming a long way from wearing the same pair of undies (just a saying, not really).

I knew things were bad when Jon's (Gordon's other son) fiance, Amie, told me that Ben and Alana were arguing over moving in together. I had always thought that living together would make or break the situation, but I didn't think that they wouldn't make it to move in day.

In a way, I am happy about the breakup because he is still in school and she is starting in the fall. They both need time to mature and be with other people.

I guess I saw myself in the same situation, dating seriously at 19 and getting married at 21. Now, there is a maturity different between a 15 year old and someone that's 19, but I still missed out on a lot by being with one person.

Don't get me wrong, I would still marry Gordy, but I would have had more fun and did things with my friends instead of feeling oblagated to be with him 24/7. All in all, I think we came out of it fine, considering me being childish at times.

Oh well, I hope he got the ring back. At least he can sell it on eBay.

I'm off to dinner with the hubby and a group of people from work...